More About Nifemi

I’m a writer, therapeutic specialist, and speaker whose work examines the internal architecture of adult life. I study how excellence, competence, morality, and performance operate not merely as qualities, but as systems that organise behaviour, stabilise worth, and quietly govern how adults live, relate, and rest.

My academic training spans psychology and language. I hold a Bachelor’s degree in Communication Arts from Bowen University, where I graduated with the first-ever First Class in my department, alongside a Master’s degree in Psychotherapy and Counselling from Western Sydney University and a Master’s degree in Creative Writing from Macquarie University. This combination allows me to work with both conceptual rigour and narrative precision, thinking clinically while writing with creative depth.

Professionally, I work as a therapeutic specialist in the intensive therapeutic care (ITC) sector, where people are relied upon to function well over long periods of time. That proximity has sharpened my attention to adults whose lives appear capable, admirable, and stable, yet are internally governed by vigilance, self-command, and compulsory excellence. 

My writing is narrative psychology rather than diagnosis or instruction. I am interested in patterns that are rewarded, identities that are trusted, and forms of brilliance that quietly demand more than they return. I do not offer motivation or quick resolution. I offer language, clarity, and a way of seeing that allows recognition to precede change.

This perspective shapes my counselling work, my speaking engagements, and my forthcoming book, The Adults We Become: Childhood Patterns That Built Our Brilliance but Broke Our Peace. Across all of it, my aim is consistent: to work with people and institutions who want to understand how they function, not simply perform better, and to create space for change that is deliberate, chosen, and sustainable.